DEEP DOWN INSIDE I FELT LOST, UNHAPPY AND BORED. I KNEW I WAS LIVING A LIFE WAY BELOW MY FULL POTENTIAL...
People often ask me how I got into coaching, and why I started working with men?
It all started with me feeling deeply lost within myself regardless of any success I had built.
Before I started coaching I was never really felt happy or fulfilled, I felt lost, bored and knew I was living a life way below my full potential. Because of this, I suffered in silence for years with drinking problems, anger, frustration, low confidence, low self-worth, anxiety and depression.
Over time this affected my marriage, my income, my health and my ability to be a good father. My mental health deteriorated to the point of me burning my business to the ground and almost losing my marriage.
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I was so sick and tired of carrying this burden of stress, overwhelm and having feelings of anxiety on my shoulder. I felt I wasn't where I wanted to be in business, marriage and life.
Plagued with anxiety particularly because I felt tied to my business I would feel guilty when I took my foot off the gas.
Telling myself “If I can just get a few more clients, everything will be ok”
Telling my wife “I’ll spend time with you when I make more money.”
I felt a million miles away from everyone in my life...including myself.
Stuck in an endless cycle of knowing what I should do but procrastinating and getting nothing done. I'd constantly doubt myself and put myself down. I wanted to be great as a dad, husband and business owner, On the outside, people assumed I was, I was always cracking jokes.
I was the fun guy to be around, but inside I was a complete mess. If anyone asked me how I was doing I'd be like “Yeah I’m good, busy as always” I always like something was missing, regardless of how much money I made.
I asked myself "Is this the best it's gonna get?"
>>I desperately wanted the inside to match the outside
But I just couldn't escape from the chaos in my head. so I did what many men do...
- I would work longer hours to avoid my family and my life crumbling around me.
- Use junk food, alcohol or drugs to hide how I felt about myself
- Create distractions so I didn’t have to deal with my business and life problems
I felt guilty if I wasn't working 12 to 14 hours a day, I’d put my family 2nd, 3rd or even 4th in line.
Then one day It came to a head when my wife said to me:
"I don’t want to go on like this anymore Michael "
That was the turning point where I finally admitted to myself life just wasn’t working.
My life is spent doing what I love with the people I love. I work with people that excite me. I love going on adventures and hikes, sometimes by myself, sometimes with clients, sometimes with my family.
I'm in the best shape of my life mentally and physically.
I enjoy doing things that push me mentally and physically.
At home, I'm a father to 3 highly energised kids ( soon to be 4 ) that keep me on my toes.
Fatherhood to me is a responsibility that I take very seriously. I work towards being the best living breathing example I can be for my kids.
I have a playful, beautiful relationship with my wife nowadays we have come a long way from where we were 7 years ago and created an amazing life together.
Everyone has the potential to build a better life for themselves, I'm an example of that.
The only limitation we have are the limitations, beliefs, judgments and stories we impose on ourselves.
Regardless of whether I'm talking with my kids, wife, strangers or my clients, I see no limits as to what they can potentially achieve.
Anything is possible if you're willing to put in the work.